During life there will be many changes, some are good and others throw you into turmoil. When people come to see me they often find they are crying uncontrollably, not sleeping or eating well, and can be experiencing disbelief and shock. Grief can be like a physical pain, something you cannot shake off, it occupies your thoughts and much of your time. If you have lost a loved one you may find yourself wondering how to make meaning out of your life now. Loss can also be relocating, being retrenched, ill health, an empty nest or the break up of your relationship.
Some of the things I often hear people say are
"When is this going to stop"
"Will I ever get used to this"
"I miss him/her so much".
"I was a loyal employee and that didn't count for anything when they laid me off".
"No-one understands how I can grieve so much for my pet, they say it was only a dog."
"I've lost my business and it's all my fault my family are suffering. No-one will want to employ me now "
"We've come to a new country for a better life and I just want to go home".
Illness can rob you of your health and mobility. Pain can be constant and you feel helpless and overwhelmed. Working in palliative care increased my interest in grief and loss. The skills I have will help you if you are experiencing the death of a loved one, or if you are living with a chronic illness or cancer.
Have the children moved out of home and left you unsure what your role is in the family now? You were the one who was looked to for advice or a lift home when the car broke down. Is it hard to relinquish that role and embrace another? Do you feel selfish if you make yourself the priority?
Perhaps retirement isn't what you expected. After looking forward to being able to choose what you do with your time, you might find it hard to have the enthusiasm to get out of bed in the morning. Maybe you haven't spent so much time alone or with your partner for many years and it's hard to get used to.
I can help you to work through your feelings at your pace. You had a unique relationship with who or what you lost and this is important to remember, everyone grieves differently, there is no right way to do this. By seeking counselling I can help you to adjust to the changes where daily living becomes a little easier to cope with.
Some of the things I often hear people say are
"When is this going to stop"
"Will I ever get used to this"
"I miss him/her so much".
"I was a loyal employee and that didn't count for anything when they laid me off".
"No-one understands how I can grieve so much for my pet, they say it was only a dog."
"I've lost my business and it's all my fault my family are suffering. No-one will want to employ me now "
"We've come to a new country for a better life and I just want to go home".
Illness can rob you of your health and mobility. Pain can be constant and you feel helpless and overwhelmed. Working in palliative care increased my interest in grief and loss. The skills I have will help you if you are experiencing the death of a loved one, or if you are living with a chronic illness or cancer.
Have the children moved out of home and left you unsure what your role is in the family now? You were the one who was looked to for advice or a lift home when the car broke down. Is it hard to relinquish that role and embrace another? Do you feel selfish if you make yourself the priority?
Perhaps retirement isn't what you expected. After looking forward to being able to choose what you do with your time, you might find it hard to have the enthusiasm to get out of bed in the morning. Maybe you haven't spent so much time alone or with your partner for many years and it's hard to get used to.
I can help you to work through your feelings at your pace. You had a unique relationship with who or what you lost and this is important to remember, everyone grieves differently, there is no right way to do this. By seeking counselling I can help you to adjust to the changes where daily living becomes a little easier to cope with.